People don't get married with divorce in mind, but sometimes divorce becomes the conclusion of a marriage. Unfortunately, many people are severly traumatized by a divorce. Maybe because they didn't expect their spouse wanting to end the marriage, maybe because they don't want the divorce, or maybe because a battle occurs between spouses that may even involve the children getting emotionally brutalized.
Post Traumatic Stress can occur from events that may not be life threatening, yet are an extremely emotionally stressful, such as an embattled divorce. Characteristics of post trauma stress can include nightmares or bad dreams, lack of focus, anxiety, depressed feelings, lack of motivation, fears of the unknown or future, the avoidance of certain people, places, or situations, and just a general avoidance of relationships.
The stress from divorce can lead to negative self-assessment, insecurity, self-deprication, low self-esteem, self blame, and negative body images. The trauma can cause people to socially isolate, loose interest in their life, to quit looking forward, or to get stuck going over and over the past.
For most people this is a momentary spot they visit after or during a divorce, but for some it is a place where they get stuck. Once stuck, it can become extremely difficult to get out of the thought quagmire.
If you think you may be one of those people who may emotionally suffer through your divorce or whose divorce could be embattled then I highly recommend seeking out a Collaborative Divorce team to help you through the process. The resources available through the team are highly invaluable. The team works together instead of advisarily to help work through all battles in the best interest of the couple rather than any one individual. Collaborative Divorce can also help to keep the kids out of the middle. Please read more about Collaborative Divorce on my web site.
If you are suffering from Post Divorce Trauma then I highly recommend EMDR therapy to help process all the emotional load you carry with you through the day. EMDR helps many people unload all those troublesome feelings and thoughts. Please read more about EMDR therapy on my web site.
Post Traumatic Stress can occur from events that may not be life threatening, yet are an extremely emotionally stressful, such as an embattled divorce. Characteristics of post trauma stress can include nightmares or bad dreams, lack of focus, anxiety, depressed feelings, lack of motivation, fears of the unknown or future, the avoidance of certain people, places, or situations, and just a general avoidance of relationships.
The stress from divorce can lead to negative self-assessment, insecurity, self-deprication, low self-esteem, self blame, and negative body images. The trauma can cause people to socially isolate, loose interest in their life, to quit looking forward, or to get stuck going over and over the past.
For most people this is a momentary spot they visit after or during a divorce, but for some it is a place where they get stuck. Once stuck, it can become extremely difficult to get out of the thought quagmire.
If you think you may be one of those people who may emotionally suffer through your divorce or whose divorce could be embattled then I highly recommend seeking out a Collaborative Divorce team to help you through the process. The resources available through the team are highly invaluable. The team works together instead of advisarily to help work through all battles in the best interest of the couple rather than any one individual. Collaborative Divorce can also help to keep the kids out of the middle. Please read more about Collaborative Divorce on my web site.
If you are suffering from Post Divorce Trauma then I highly recommend EMDR therapy to help process all the emotional load you carry with you through the day. EMDR helps many people unload all those troublesome feelings and thoughts. Please read more about EMDR therapy on my web site.